Six years of studying emotion regulation has not given me what people tend to assume it would. I am not unflappable. I don’t move through difficult days with particular grace. I still get activated by things that are, in the cold light of later, not as catastrophic as they felt in the moment. I still [...] The post I’ve been studying emotion regulation for 6 years, and I think the most practical skill you can learn is to notice your nervous system before your mind starts writing tragic fiction.